We both enjoy different positions, but some positions don’t let me look him in the eye, which makes me wonder if he actually likes it. I decided to use a mirror to find out, and ended up loving the experience.
We both seemed very attractive, and I could see that he loved me for who I was. What my body looked like wasn’t that important to him, and to be honest, it shouldn’t be that important to me either.
Still, I love my body more now. I feel more confident overall, without worrying about whether my little love handles or my arms look a little loose when I dress. When I look at myself in the mirror, I still see areas I want to improve, but I don’t feel as compelled to fix them as I did before. Now, my sex mirror is just for his pleasure.
Victoria, 24, London
As a teenager, I was extremely thin and often got criticized by friends and family for my size, which led to body image issues. Around age 17, I took my first nude photos and shared them with people who appreciated my body. It changed my perspective.
Over time, I found myself getting turned on by this. I started masturbating in front of the mirror and taking nude photos, eventually expanding into the bedroom. This experience completely changed my view of self. At first, it was weird to see myself having sex, but it gradually became more comfortable and positive. Despite my insecurities about my body, seeing how much my partner wanted me helped me shatter those negative beliefs.
While this improved my sexual self-image, it didn’t significantly change how I felt about my body outside of it, and while I still struggle with body image issues, I can’t deny that my confidence has increased in the bedroom.
Before, I thought my breasts were too small and I had a lot of self-confidence. But seeing my partner compliment my breasts during sex in the mirror made me feel desired and more confident. The visual aspect of this experience is powerful. There’s a big difference between hearing someone tell you they love your body and actually seeing them enjoying it.
Mirror sex can be fun, but it can also sometimes trigger negative feelings about your body. For example, I once found myself criticizing my belly during sex, which led me to stop having mirror sex. [having sex]I find this usually happens during PMS so I try to avoid it then and only revisit it when I’m mentally calm.
Carla, 40, New England
In the first Airbnb bedroom my boyfriend and I rented, there happened to be a full-length mirror next to the closet and one behind the bed. When he saw it, he broke into a huge grin, which I had no idea about. I couldn’t understand why he was so excited.
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